We have finally finished the nursery (for the most part)! Sorry for the last picture being dark, the lighting was not the best!
Lets talk about names!
So people started asking me way to soon what the names were that we were thinking of. I literally told my doctor at one point that I had commitment issues when it came to the names. Jack was the name of Jeremy’s (my husband) grandfather so that was never really up in the air for debate. It’s okay. I like the name actually! I know it is an “older” name in that it has been around for a long time, but after I started watching “This Is Us” this year (I get that it is a TV show!), I could only hope that my son would grow in to a man just like Jack. Anyways, I have heard about 100 times, “I like the name Jax”, or “How about Jackson?” I’m not quite sure why people think it is up for debate or why the name “Jack” is not sufficient enough for them, but I am assuming this is the universe’s way of getting me prepared for motherhood by making me stick to my guns!
Besides, the debate over Jack wasn’t nearly as awful as what people had to say about Carter. I chose Carter for a few specific reasons other than liking the name in general. First of all, my husband kind of let me take the lead on our daughter’s name since he had chosen the name for our son. That being said, he also liked the name Carter and took to it quickly after I suggested it. Second of all, I liked being able to honor my mother with use of her initials and middle name. My mother has played an important role in my life and we are very close. I liked that Carter’s initials would be CAS, since we also decided on Anne for her middle name. My mom’s middle name is Anne as well. My mom’s initials (pre-marriage) were also CAS, and after she married by father became CAR, which are the first three letters in Carter’s name. I liked the way that these things could be connected back to my mom, but at the end of the day still allowed Carter to be an individual. Unlike my husband and unlike our son, I wanted our daughter to have her own name, rather than stress about what relative to honor. When I told my sister about the name and the reasoning up to this point she loved it! My sister’s name is Taylor, which could be considered a “unisex” name (the first complaint we got about the name Carter), and she agreed that it was cool and we should go with it. My mother’s main complaint (this was ironically before she realized the correlation to the use of her own initials) was that Carter rhymed with our last name, Snyder. She also thought the name was more appropriate for a boy. I disagreed. I have never known a boy or girl to be named Carter, so there is no existing connection for me. I have heard the name being used as both, but no personal connection exists. My grandmother literally hated the name and hoped that I would change it. Actually, up until the point that we have literally posted their names on the walls of the nursery we have gotten push back from various members of my family in particular.
If I have any advice for moms or even dads to be at this point, considering my daughter and son have not been born yet and I am still wondering if we have made the right name choices, it is to talk to your partner and work with them to come up with names and ignore what people have to say. I think people just want to be part of the process and that is why they come up with never ending suggestions about various parts of parenting and pregnancy. Most of the time, this can be overwhelming anyways, but when it comes to naming your children, it is a very personal experience and it is something that you should feel free to do without influence and opinion, especially of the negative type, from friends and family.
I also would just like to say, for those of you who may be reading this and expecting children of your own that are nameless as of now, giving a name to your children is one of the most surreal experiences because it brings another whole new level of reality to the situation. It took me a very long time to get used to referring to them by their names, and I haven’t quite gotten used to it yet to be honest. When I do refer to them as Jack and Carter I am overwhelmed by a feeling of joy and hope for what is yet to come in the future and I am so excited to meet these two little people!